A Vital Ingredient for a Successful Relationship

Something vital is simply abundantly important. It’s just something you can’t do without. When such is missing, it’s either others functionings are impossible or one becomes a sitting duck – of course, whichever of the states would be just fine with the enemy but it’s not what God wants.

However, God does always makes sure that the instructions we need for us to be safe and success are always as previous as He is. Or of what use would a sign placed after the danger zone be to us?


That’s the ingredient I’m pointing at here. Tag it the state of being singular-minded. And to know how vital it is – see what the Scripture says about it –

“…he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord;he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways,” James 1:6-8, NKJV.

If each of us is instructed to be singular-minded in approaching God, why should we think that double-mindedness would be permitted when it becomes two of us? Let’s bring it into the context of relationships – the elemental level at which we need agreement; although, it’s also the most important level at which we need it. An account – amongst others, in the Old Testament emphasized the power of agreement.

‘Jonathan said to his young armor-bearer, “Come, let’s go over to the outpost of those uncircumcised fellows. Perhaps the Lord will act in our behalf. Nothing can hinder the Lord from saving, whether by many or by few.”

“Do all that you have in mind,” his armor-bearer said. “Go ahead; I am with you heart and soul,”’ 1 Sam 14:6-7, NIV. Read the rest of the account of the duo’s dealings with the Philistines. The armor-bearer wasn’t just bearing Jonathan’s armor, he was also watching his back. The importance of that fact is clear enough, yet it’s highlighted in the New Testament.

“And He called the twelve to Himself, and began to send them out two by two, and gave them power over unclean spirits,” Mark 6:7-8, NKJV.

‘“I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will bebound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.

“Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them,”’ Matt 18:18-20, NIV.

I’ve come across the opinion that the reason the there’s nothing to cover the believer’s back in the armor we’re provided with is because we’re not meant to run from the battle. This is right; even though, it’s not totally true. The truth is that, we’re not asked to stand alone but with others who would be watching our backs as we watch theirs – that’s the covering for our backs. Check it out, Paul states this – “…praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints – and for me, that utterance may be given to me, that I may open my mouth boldly to make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains; that in it I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak,” [italics mine] Eph. 6:18-20, NKJV. The apostle wasn’t just telling the church to pray, he was also telling them the points on which they needed to have an agreement for the prayer.

Still, you didn’t miss the third one in the relationships, right?

For Jonathan and his armor-bearer, the point of agreement was the involvement of the LORD.

In sending the apostles out, the Scripture says that Jesus first called them to Himself. Of course, He who called them – and us – to Himself never sends out and away from Himself. He says, “I am with you always, even to the end of the age,” (Matt 28:20, NKJV) and His words are as immutable as they are dependable.

So, why should He always be involved?

“And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Eccl 4:12, NKJV

It’s that simple but vital.

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